Saturday, March 29, 2014

the process, the gory details and all that stuff - part 6 + christmas, new year's eve, & my brother turning 30!

so the 2 week wait. it coincided with the holidays. so either we sat around here in rockville till the new year just to get the results or we went ahead with our travel plans to spend the holidays with my family in Texas. uh... no debate. we were heading to Texas.

everyone protested me flying down there because they didn't want anything to happen to me and the little embryos. but, to me, if the doctor says it's okay, it's okay. in hindsight, i understand the concern now. but i really needed to be with my family at the time. i guess they just didn't realize how much i needed to be with them and see them and hug them and spend as much time with them as i could before all the chaos happened. i'm hoping they understand now though.

it was great to be around everyone, but it was hard hiding the fact that i was incubating 2 little embryos. only my parents and siblings and their significant others knew the news. on christmas eve, we celebrated our annual "Ulanday Christmas" at my sister's house and had a great time. we did our usual white elephant exchange and played some games. all in all it was a very exciting and fun day.

my niece Taylor and nephew Mason

me & mark

brother-in-law Allen, Mason, Taylor, sister Laurie

brother Mike and his girlfriend Rachel

Mom and Dad, Mason and Taylor

cousin-in-law Holly, niece Hannah, cousin Eric

cousin Dennis, nephews Nick, Jake and Zach, niece Olivia, cousin-in-law Kelly

Mason with brother-in-law's brother Jody

Dennis





Aunt Corette


Kelly's sister-in-law Sharon

Mike and my Uncle Rolly

kiddos playing the right left game

nephews

Laurie and cousin's girlfriend Cindy
on christmas day, we all woke up early to have breakfast at my sister's in-laws' house. as we were finishing up breakfast and heading out to church, i needed to use the restroom. it was then and there that i started bleeding. i had felt a little pain early that morning but attributed it to gas from the heavy breakfast. i guess i had been wrong. so i called the doctor's office (they are open 24/7/365) and left a message for the on-call doctor about my bleeding and mild cramping. mark and i decided that i should go back to bed and lay down while he went to church with my family. and so i did.

while at church, the doctor's office called back and told me that there was nothing they could do at the moment and for me to monitor the bleeding - making sure that it didn't get worse and that hopefully it would get better. it got better. by the time everyone came home from church and were getting ready to eat lunch, the bleeding had subsided. i was to call back the next morning or friday to speak to dr. o'brien or one of her nurses about further instructions. i called back on friday.

according to the nurse, it could be bleeding from implantation which is fairly common - even more if there are 2 successfully implanted embryos. so that news calmed me down. but, i had to take it easy from now on and really adhere to the no lifting more than 25 pounds thing. it was REALLY hard to adhere to that when i missed my niece and nephew so much that all i wanted to do was pick them up and cuddle with them. i had to resort to laying on the couch with them most of the time.

new year's eve and my not-so-little-anymore brother's 30th birthday (new year's day) was looming around the corner. as i was helping my sister take care of the kids and she helped my mom prep for the annual new year's party at my parents' house, i felt cramping yet again. and wouldn't you know it, i started bleeding yet again. it wasn't as bad as christmas day, but i definitely saw fresh red blood. my heart just sank. another call to the nurse and the doctor's office ensued.

this time, the nurse said that it could still be residual from the first bleed and the same instructions were given. rest, take it easy, and monitor the heaviness of the bleeding. it thankfully didn't get any worse and subsided by the time people were arriving to my parents' house. the party was a lot of fun 'cept that a whole bunch of us had apparently gotten sick and were still recovering from something someone may have passed around on christmas eve. my brother turned 30 and my sister and i looked at each other and realized just how old WE were now! haha


Mike & Taylor

cousin Mark & husband Mark

Daddy & Mike

Daddy, Aunt Eufe, Aunt Corette, Uncle Rolly, Mike, Godmother Juliet

pretty banner i made and family photos

Mike & Rachel

Mike, Mark, godbrother Matthew, Mark, Rachel

Taylor and my Mommy

my goddaughter Julia and Taylor

playing Minute To Win It games

playing Minute To Win It games

playing Minute To Win It games

playing Minute To Win It games

playing Minute To Win It games

playing Minute To Win It games

Julia and her mom, my godsister Jennifer

Me and Julia

me and mark

playing Minute To Win It games

Julia's brother Ben playing Minute To Win It games

playing Minute To Win It games

playing Minute To Win It games

Uncle Art, playing Minute To Win It games

Allen, playing Minute To Win It games

playing Minute To Win It games

playing Minute To Win It games


helping my brother blow out his candle

umbrella with 30 rolled up $1 bills hanging from it for Mike's 30th birthday, made by me and my sister

passed out Mason, and a very exhausted sister and niece


a few days later, mark and i headed back to rockville completely exhausted, hearts filled with a lot of love and ready to take my blood test to see if we were pregnant.

the process, the gory details and all that stuff - part 5 + christmas pinterest party!

hope you're all still with me... these backtracking entries were a lot longer than i expected!

so while i was taking the medication, we decided to get our friends together and have a christmas pinterest party. if you don't know the addiction of Pinterest, you're missing out. at first, it was just supposed to be a bunch of us cooking stuff or crafting stuff we saw on pinterest. but i figured, it's almost christmas time, why not make some of it christmas themed!? so i bought a mini christmas tree and a bunch of ornaments that we could all decorate and place on the tree. unfortunately, the ornaments wouldn't dry fast enough so they ended up going on this metal christmas tree to dry. it still was a lot of fun and even the metal version of our first friends' christmas was pretty awesome. and the food... i still dream about some of the dishes to this day! i wish i had taken more pictures... i was a little too busy stuffing my face with all the food and having too much fun decorating!

olive garden's zuppa toscana soup copycat - by me!

cantonese crispy pork belly - by our friend Sammy

our friend Sammy and his daughter Emery

our friend Yinni and her nephew Ethan

our friends Steve and Kiet having fun decorating ornaments

one of Steve's ornaments and our friend Sinson playing with our other friends' son Colin

braised pork on a bun - by Yinni

cheesy chicken something dip that was really delicious but i can't remember the name - by our friend Jemi

puff pastry with brie and honey? i think? - by our friend Teresa

halal chicken + rice... but i forgot to take a pic of the rice - by our friend Lisa (Colin's mommy)

our metal christmas tree

another view of the metal tree

mango mouse with raspberries and andes mints - by Teresa

chocolate fudge mini cupcakes with peppermint frosting - by me!

most of our friends knew how hard we had been trying to get pregnant and the whole history of our ups and downs with all our treatments. so it was only natural for some of them to ask for an update on how things were going that night. we updated them with what was going on and they wished us well. they had inadvertently became a family to us. they all wanted us to have children as much as we did. they had, unknowingly to me, felt the pain of the "failures" as much as we did.

four days later, we went in for the transfer. with a super full bladder, mark and i walked into the procedure room and i laid on the table. dr. o'brien explained that they were going to discard the embryos that had abnormalities and told us the 2 best ones they were going to transfer. the process didn't take very long... about 30-45 minutes from start to finish. but with an excruciatingly full bladder, it seemed like forever. but i had to have a full bladder in order to make it easier to implant the embryos. after the forever long wait, i was able to get up and relieve myself... best pee ever! haha

so now, it was 24 hours of full bed rest and time to wait. that nasty, nerve wrecking 2 week wait.